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Stop Shouting Get Rid Of it! How Parents & Coaches Encourage Fear in Youth Football!

by Coach Kurtis

In my son’s last football match, I thought it would be interesting to see how many times I heard the term ‘get rid of it’ or something along those lines and count them.

I heard the term mentioned 38 times!!

And that was with me going to the bar in between so it could have been more.

And I have been told grassroots football has improved over the years? Still waiting to see the evidence of it.

Besides the fact that the FA has introduced various campaigns to restrict the involvement of parents during matches, nothing much has changed.

So, what is the answer you might be thinking?

In my experience, if you set the tone and create the right culture at your club then parents can be a dream to work with.

Don’t get me wrong, there are times when you still get the odd rebel but with the procedures in place even, they can be won around to your way of thinking.

Now I know what you might be thinking “what’s wrong with constantly telling my players/child what to do in the game?”

Here is why using such terms like ‘Get rid of it’ or ‘Get stuck in’ or even ‘Stop trying to be Messi’ can set your players/child back not move them forward!

How You Might Be Holding Your Player/Child Back!

Many parents and coaches have the best intentions for their players/child before the game, but something just switches once that whistle blows, it becomes about winning, Nothing else!

Don’t get me wrong, who doesn’t love to win a game of football at any level and our children are no different.

They always want to win!

But in their development years should that be our focus?

As parents and coaches, what is our focus and role when bringing up children?


And this is no different in youth football.

Whenever I watch my child play my focus is not to encourage him to take shortcuts to secure a victory but do what is necessary to help him learn how to solve problems in real situations.

I don’t want him to be reliant on me or the coach in the game, so I try to say as little as possible.

I remember a parent saying to me once “I believe a coach should be shouting at their players telling them what to do”.

His child was playing for the opposition and he wasn’t happy with the current manager.

“You see your child’s manager is very animated tells his players what to do, that’s what a good coach does”.

Now I know you might be thinking “Your child’s coach shouts at his players?” yes, he is very animated, and I admit it is one thing from our coach I would love for him to work on because there are other things he does very well but trust me it is difficult to find a grassroots club in the UK with a coach that does it all.

Development should always take priority over results in youth football!

Development should always take priority over results in youth football!

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